A while back, in my younger days – a mentor once told me that either I was moving forward or falling behind. For him, there was never any point in one’s life when a person could hover and rest a bit. There was also no mindless cruise control.
He also admonished me to never seek to elevate myself by putting down others.
Today, I was speaking to a young man who works where I do, who I have some authority over. For the past few months, he has been lacking in a key metric. I wanted to discuss what his challenges were with him, and what I could do to help him. He responded that he was doing everything he could but that his customers just did not see the value in what he offering. He could do no better.
I informed him that others seem to be doing well. He responded by questioning their tactics. He stated that he “knew for a fact” that the others were not being on the up and up with the customers.
It was his last statements that troubled me the most. It reminded me of another story involving crabs:
When fisherman catches a crab and puts the crab in a holding tank; he must put a lid on it. If not, the crab would try to escape. However, once he places a second crab in the box, he no longer needs to worry about putting a lid on it. When a crab tries to escape, the other crab pulls it down.
So, here was the young man pulling down the others who were succeeding. He was seeking to justify his shortcomings by denigrating others. There can be no profit in this.
If you have been unemployed for a while, or not advancing in your company; what has been your response? Clearly, there are others who are finding jobs or are advancing. Yet you are not. Do you, as the young man did, put down the others to mitigate your “failures?”
Are you the crab who seeks to escape or the crab that pulls the other crabs down? Truth be told, to be successful in finding a job, you almost have to be “crazy” optimistic. And for this type of individual, there really are no “failures.”
Failure is simply learning what did not work. Sending out 100 resumes and not getting back any response qualifies as a failure. But it it you who determine whether that “failure” is positive or negative. To view it positively is to just accept that failure only means this particularly tactic or strategy did not work. Armed with that knowledge, you can now pursue another option. Failure means nothing else.
Each failure brings you closer to success.
Do you believe that?
Are you “crazy” optimistic?
Do you really believe you an crawl over a wall many times your height?
Are you that crab?
Be the crab that constantly seeks escape. And if other crabs get out sooner, that should be no more than a confidence booster that you too will be able to get out.