“Life is difficult,” so begins the one of the most powerful books I have read, The Road Less Travelled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck.
Life is difficult – so simple, so direct, and yet, so profound. When I first read this book, it was difficult, the reading was difficult. The excuses, the woulda’s, the coulda’s, shoulda’s all become really irrelevant. All excuses and rationals become moot.
Actually, the words were liberating. Once I accepted that life was difficult, I no longer needed to make excuses.
Life is meant to be hard and hard things happen to good people and bad people alike. Once accepted, I – we no longer need to dwell on it. We can choose to develop the discipline, the self discipline to face and overcome those difficulties. What a great feeling.
When I played football, all those many, many years ago, we used to have a saying, still popular today, “when the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Only problem was – what if you’re not tough? Me, I was any but tough, just a geek pretending to a jock, and not very good one.
But once you accept that life is difficult and you’re okay with it, that cliché changes to “when the going gets tough, so what…”
You deal it and move on – that’s what!
So if you’re unemployed, or soon to be, this will pass, you will survive, and you will do well…because when the going gets tough…