Harvey Mackay is a source of great wisdom and advice. I have used his experiences, his knowledge and taken his advice – via his books – to better myself and achieve much of the success, such as they are, that I have attained in my life thus far. In many ways, I have adopted him as a mentor (unbeknownst to him, of course).
And you should too.
On his website, http://www.harveymackay.com/index.cfm, he has a book out – Use Your Head to Get Your Foot in the Door – that you should get. I plan on running down to the library to check a copy out and will let you know what I think. Unless you beat me to the punch and get it first. Then you comment and let me know what you think.
While you are at it, read this great article that I took from his website. You can read it here, but be sure to head over to his site to read the other great articles he’s written of late.
People like people who like people
By Harvey Mackay
Quick, name three people at your workplace whom you look forward to seeing every day. Now, name three who rain on your parade every time you see them.
Which list was easier to generate?
I believe it was Lucy of Peanuts fame who said, “I love mankind. It’s people I can’t stand!”
But Lucy would have had an argument from former Chrysler Chairman Lee Iacocca, who said: “Anyone who doesn’t get along with people has earned the kiss of death because that’s all we’ve got around here are people.”
Whether you like them or not, you need to learn to get along with others. Having a co-worker who is difficult to deal with can destroy an office dynamic, which can be very bad for business. Customers wonder, if they can’t get along with each other, how will they treat us?
On the flip side, a staff that has learned how to cooperate regardless of personal differences will project a positive vibe to customers. People, not specs, in many cases will be the key in determining who gets the sale.
William J. Bennett, former U. S. Secretary of Education, was once asked by a seventh grader: “How can you tell a good country from a bad one?”
The Secretary replied, “I apply the ‘gate’ test. When the gates of a country are open, watch which way the people run. Do they run into the country or out of the country?”
Bennett’s answer can easily be translated to business settings. If a company is good, people want to work there and customers know they are valued. The doors don’t spin fast enough at a bad company.
Never underestimate the importance of people in your life. And always look for opportunities to improve your relationships, no matter how good they already are.
Successful work relationships depend on several factors. Perhaps the most important is you. What can you do to become a better co-worker?
- Maintain a positive attitude. Managers and co-workers alike appreciate the support of someone with an upbeat outlook. Show some enthusiasm about your job and the organization you work for. Look for opportunities, not problems, and find the bright side of the challenges you face.
- Always demonstrate integrity. Be honest with people. When you don’t have an answer, say so. Admit your mistakes (and concentrate on not repeating them).Â Keep your promises, and meet your deadlines. All this shows your respect for other people and demonstrates your reliability.
- Show a willingness to try. Don’t be afraid to stretch out of your comfort zone. Volunteer for new tasks and extra responsibility. Take risks — be realistic about what you can and can’t do, of course, but don’t back away from a challenge because of the possibility of failure. Ask the right questions so you know what’s really going on, regardless of whether you fear you may appear “ignorant.”
- Co-operate. Be a team player — help your colleagues with their priorities, and share information instead of hoarding it. Know what your manager wants, and support him or her to the best of your abilities. Offer your support when people need it, so they know you’re not just out to get ahead for your own benefit.
- Manage conflict. The ability to resolve conflicts among different groups of workers is a coveted skill in most organizations. Companies are looking for employees who can build positive relationships between people, yet don’t shy away from controversy.
- Focus on other people. Ask questions that let other people talk, and encourage them to open up and share their thoughts. You’ll be less worried about saying something wrong, and you’ll probably find enough common ground on which to build a real conversation.
- Set a great example. Show others that they can count on you to be fair, friendly and even-tempered. Keep your cool. Remember that you are dealing with people who also have feelings, opinions and ideas. You can’t learn anything if you are doing all the talking.
- Then, take these suggestions and apply them to your customer service. Your customers are people too! If there’s one complaint I hear over and over again from customers, it is that some companies they deal with treat them like account numbers rather than flesh and blood. Deliver your customer service with a human touch. Your customers should feel like the technology you use is an enhancement of your personal service, not a replacement.
Mackay’s Moral: If you want to get ahead, learn how to get along.
– Leonard Lauder, former president, CEO and current chairman of Estee Lauder Inc.