When I first saw this post, I thought, “what is he off his rocker?” To my limited mind, I’m thinking that being fired or laid off is no occasion to be congratulating anyone. Still, as I read on – I kinda, sorta, got what he meant.
It’s essentially the “one door closes, another door opens” message.
And to a degree, I do concur. You’re fired – you’re laid off – it is what it is (to quote that guy up in the NE). Looking on the bright side – looking for all the positive – wallowing in self-pity – being bitter – NONE of that matters. What matters is that you put together a plan, bullet proof your mind, and get back in the game.
You can do it – You have no other options – really. That’s having a Can-Do attitude.
For a long time, I have never through of having a positive mental attitude as being a rah-rah, everything’s rosy, blind to reality, or having a stupidly sunny or positive facade.
I have always felt that having a positive mental attitude meant possessing a can-do spirit in face of tremendous challenges – fully aware of the obstacles and shortcomings – yet relentlessly believing that you can overcome it (with or without the smile). Want a great set of examples, check out the second youtube video.
Recently Unemployed? Congratulations!
If you are recently unemployed let me offer congratulations and condolences. Yes, losing your job can be difficult, traumatic, and challenging. Your job provides necessary income and can meet some of your professional development, self-esteem, security, and social needs. On the other hand your job may actually retard your personal and professional growth. This is particularly true if you have opted to stay in a position that you wouldn’t consider if the paycheck wasn’t so sweet.
A “Mixed Bag”
Whenever you work for someone else you have to make compromises, although unemployment brings its own set of problems; uncertainty and sacrifice. Severance of the employment bond whether by your own volition, or circumstances not of your choosing, shakes things up. This can result in despondence, anger and blame, or re-energizing, unexpected growth, and greater success. These positive or negative outcomes are up to you. However, it may not appear that way and some people don’t know how to turn the process to their advantage.
Everyone experiences adversity, even the rich and famous. Perhaps the truly successful experience more reversals and career changes than most, because they take more chances, and recognize more opportunities. The most successful generally believe in themselves and the positive potential in unforeseen events.
Change is Good
Change provides us with opportunities. It’s difficult to recognize options when you’re stuck in a comfort zone and you may miss out on some real positives. So start by welcoming change and embracing the possibilities it entails. This attitude adjustment will go a long way towards creating beneficial outcomes. Negativity is an enticing trap. It gives you the appearance of being blameless and subject to forces outside your control. However, this attitude is self-defeating. Whenever you relinquish control of your destiny to outside forces, you become un-empowered, demoralized and defeated.
Regain control by objectively evaluating your circumstances, your strengths and weaknesses, the opportunities which may be available, and the actions you must take in order to capitalize upon them. Your plan must include these elements, and it’s your responsibility to get going.
Implement Your Plan
1) Determine what you really want to do
2) Objectively analyze whether you have the required skills and education
3) List your Strengths and Weaknesses with sufficient detail
4) If you’re not sufficiently qualified decide if you are willing and able to pursue additional credentials, education, or training
5) Determine if you will be self-employed or an employee
6) List titles of jobs, careers, positions, etc., for which you are suited and qualified
7) Refine the list to focus on a few
8) Identify potential employers and career paths
9) Develop a compelling Resume; one that will distinguish you, your experience, accomplishments and potential, from other candidates
10) Begin your job “campaign” – start exposing your talents and selling yourself to the prospective employers in the fields you desire
11) Analyze your results, and modify your strategies as necessary
12) Maintain a positive attitude; it’s your most important ally in this process
Dr. Ben A. Carlsen, MBA, is author of “Bites of Business” http://bitesofbusiness.com
He is an experienced consultant, leader, management expert and educator. Carlsen was Chairman of the Los Angeles County Productivity Managers Network, Chair of the Marketing Managers Association, and President of the Association for Systems Management (So. California Chapter). For more info visit: http://drben.info/